Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Writing with a broken heart


More single gal writing advice (and slightly entertaining drama too!)

Sorry that it’s been a while, fellow writers… readers… what are you? Write-eaders? Wreaders?

Um, but when you’re reaching down into your most sensitive self to write in any case, and then while your hand is down in there, other sharp things cut up your fingers, ruin your perfect manicure, wedge deep under your nails, you do tend to whip your hand back out and silent-cry over how bad that hurts. My hiatus was a combination of a case of the Satur-daze and also getting over a series of very depressing, domino-affected situations.
  1. A good friend that I dated suddenly dropped out of my life and pulled the silent treatment on me while maintaining a seamless, happy friendship with someone else we were both close with.
  2. Two more “friends” of mine fessed up to something truly shady that went on for a long time behind my back while I was still trying to heal from #1, and then either boasted about it or blamed me for having a hurt reaction.
  3. Not long after #2 hit the fan, I thought I was moving on with yet another great guy who it turned out strung me along for weeks before finally calling, and then after rushing me out for a sketch "I finally have time for you" last minute date, disappeared.
  4. Even more of ye olde bullshit while recovering from #1 + #2 + #3...

Saturday, June 8, 2013

Writing when you’re single


Oh, yes I did draw a black
Wonder Woman with cornrows...
I’ve had some funny hehe (entertaining) and funny haha (oh, how embarrassing) moments writing as a single woman. Even as a black single woman, which adds another layer to what you may experience when you’re drafting your novel at home in singlehood, trying to explain your story-babies to folks at work, and even “secretly” sharing risqué fantasy fiction from beneath a cute moniker for your favorite video game… 

So, I realized it might be helpful and really, amazingly goofy of me to share how the single-writing-female thing goes down, for any avid fiction readers who wonder how it does all come together when real life is in the way, or for any other lady writers out there looking for friendly reflection from a fellow Diana Prince by day, Wonderwoman writer by night type of gal.

This will be a three-part series, so hold on tight! (You’re holding on tight because it’s exciting. Omg, are you still not holding on tight? You just hurt my feelings...)




#1 How the hell do you write good romances when you’re not dating?

Oh my God, so how many times over the years have I plunked down on the sofa at the end of a frustrating day of trying to work, while at day-job and not focusing on some guy who was great/letting me down at the moment, and then tried to come up with something noble, sexy

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Your 90s Dreams Can Come True

Once Upon a Time, at the tail-end of the 90s...

Avatar hadn't happened yet.  Blogging was like... jigga-WHAT?  No, we were into making our own web-sites on Geocities.  And by 2001, we were also thrilled with a new series of Lord of the Rings movies.  Many of us fiction lovers already understand the monumental creative aspect of Tolkien's fantasy stories, but back then, something else really special happened--when Orlando Bloom was cast as Legolas.  One day, he seized the leather girth of a galloping white horse and then with a clever hop up from the ground, swinged easily across the noble animal's thundering gait and into the saddle on its other side.  Even better, Orlando Bloom tossed Gimli later...




I don't believe Cassandra Claire made the clip, but it is so SO giggle-worthy.

Also around the same time, a young woman writer known as Cassandra Claire began to publish a series of 'very secret diaries' in parody of these characters, online.  The parodies seemed to capitalize on 'what we were all thinking' about what the characters would never do, deep within the personality spectrum for each.  Aragorn kept a regular stubble count, for example, and Gandalf had some disturbing... pointy hat tricks up his noble gray sleeve. These unusual and hilarious stories were so popular, it was rumored that the Rings executives would read one of Cassandra's stories at the start of every board meeting--at least, that's the stuff I remember giggling glazed-eyed with my little sister about so many years ago.  If you're a fan of LOTR at all, you should have read these already. They're EXCELLENT:

http://www.ealasaid.com/misc/vsd/

One way or another, know that it is always worth it to spend hours of effort writing ridiculous and fun stories for no readily apparent reason, except for the joy of it.  Nor is it ever too late to get started sharing your work--who doesn't want to be recognized ten years later by adoring fans?

I wonder if Cassandra Claire is doing anything writing-wise today?  If I find out, I'll keep it all to myself and read it fiendishly in the odd hours of my free time so that no one else can enjoy the wonderfulness of finding buried fiction-treasure from my youth on the vast interwebs.   Or, I guess I could just share it with you guys.

Dammit, but I'm already a middle-child.  I didn't come online here to share my nice crap with strangers.  Oh, wait...

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San'ur Crush update:  Burnout is a bitch.

Monday, January 17, 2011

BWB 2, Creative Writing is Silly, Smart, Sexy

Once upon a time, someone told me that because I was a creative person, I could not be rational.  What was implied was that I could not be a truly intelligent person, for loving art.  And, that I could never become a successful person because I was born passionate and had learned it was worthwhile to take risks in life, in order to praise life.  Today, on re-reading Dr. King's Letter from a Birmingham Jail, I am reminded that society does need intensity and creative vision--a kind of Socratic intellectual tension that should drive people to find better solutions to those schemes and embittered attitudes present in our society that are based in misconceptions of what the full breadth of what being human, and being a successful person really involves.  In fact, human progress is frustrated by these stereotypes of creative individuals.

And so, as a black fantasy fiction writer, and a lover of fiction reading and then writing in general, I feel compelled to remind everyone who is an artist today and a lover of art--especially if you are a struggling creative person, of a few Don'ts

Don't let people tell you that silly isn't sexy; that indulging play and renewing the spirit in the middle of life's now-and-again drudgery serves no purpose.  People will say this to you, but don't ever let it sink in. 

Don't let people tell you that it is foolish to delve into your emotions, all those aspects of the human experience which are hard to recapture but easier to feel and convey through art--in order to respond to life's challenges.  They will tell you that your deep feelings make you too womanly, or not manly enough, but don't let it sink in. 

Don't let people say to you that if what you're doing makes no money, then it can't make any sense.  All work is at first service to another person.  Therefore, all jobs, all choices to commit time to even an artistic project is some form of vocation.  Furthermore, humans are made to care.  We are made to want to build, and participate in life’s improvement and to be loved.  And so, that is the real point of work--to make things better, to show love.

People may not always get that, through being creative, you're actually seeing another part of this life.  Just because they won't always see what you do, does not mean you are blind.  Never give into any suggestion that you aren't a worthwhile person, because you are artistic.  Now, I'll tell you one last thing that they won’t.  Please let it sink in:

Fellow artist, for doing what you do and for being who you are, you are loved because you have become a maker of love, itself.  You are progress, incarnate.  You will empower and refresh generations.

True human intelligence strives for that kind of achievement.  

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Next:  Life decided to happen and so we're behind a few updates.  We'll see more of how strange and spooky the Deer Leader of Planet Wyle is, soon.  Then, back to a regular Mon, Wed, Fri update schedule.



Monday, December 27, 2010

Pie and Sushi together at last.

Random Advisement #5,631:

No.  No, do not use the internets to make your own sushi.

Witty Observation #12:

A hostess who offers both apple and sweet potato pies to her guests is pie-partisan

*Thanks, L, for the pie idea!